What ruined your day?

by **FiaSpice** » 18 Apr 2012, 18:54

edited: I just missed an oportunity to shut up.

by **Madrigal** » 18 Apr 2012, 19:05

It's up to her. I can't make the call for her. It's between her and her fiance.

I guess I'm taken aback by the unsolicited advice being given with my sister's situation. I simply came here to vent. If I had wanted an interjection as to what she should do with her child, then I would've asked. No one can say that this is better or that is better. What's good for her is good for her. It's not up to anyone else.

by **Mama Dee** » 18 Apr 2012, 19:15

Madrigal wrote:It's up to her. I can't make the call for her. It's between her and her fiance.

I guess I'm taken aback by the unsolicited advice being given with my sister's situation. I simply came here to vent. If I had wanted an interjection as to what she should do with her child, then I would've asked. No one can say that this is better or that is better. What's good for her is good for her. It's not up to anyone else.

you expected people to ignore your post? did you not think they would look it up and try to help you, seeing as it's something that is causing you so much pain and anguish?

"my leg is bleeding badly and i can see bone"....
do you not think people will advise me to get to the hospital asap? or would you ignore it?

by **Madrigal** » 18 Apr 2012, 19:21

No, Dee, I didn't expect people to ignore the post. But I also wasn't expecting people to tell me that my sister terminating the pregnancy would be a "better" option. I wouldn't dare tell someone that. It's a bit insensitive.

Also, telling someone to go the hospital because their leg is bleeding is just a TAD different then saying someone is better off terminating their pregnancy.

*edit* I also think the statement wasn't meant to be hurtful, it just came off to me as that because I am sensitive to the issue right now.

That's all.

by **FiaSpice** » 18 Apr 2012, 19:23

I'm sorry if my post offended you, it wasn't my intention.

by **Madrigal** » 18 Apr 2012, 19:25

FiaSpice wrote:I'm sorry if my post offended you, it wasn't my intention.

lol Weird, I was just editing my post.

I know it wasn't. I just am sensitive right now (like I said in my edited post). I'm also not trying to cause drama, I'm just sad and upset. :shrug:

by **FiaSpice** » 18 Apr 2012, 19:27

Madrigal wrote:
FiaSpice wrote:I'm sorry if my post offended you, it wasn't my intention.

lol Weird, I was just editing my post.

I know it wasn't. I just am sensitive right now (like I said in my edited post). I'm also not trying to cause drama, I'm just sad and upset.

it's understandable... I know sometimes I'm a little too honest with my opinions/belief.

(funny I've edited my post too...)

by **oldspice** » 18 Apr 2012, 23:05

I wish your sister strength for whatever may come Stephanie.

Not offering advice below, just thinking outloud.

I could not do it, I really couldn't, I would be devastated but I could not go through with it. For me this is where prochoice would come in though a hard and painful decision to make. Several family friends had pregnancies where they discovered this particular disorder, and it sadly has such a low live birth rate, and further tests, scans etc revealed that one would not live past birth and the other might but then not for long with awful problems. Both terminated. It was awful, sad and difficult but both later went on to have a successful pregnancy.

by **Madrigal** » 18 Apr 2012, 23:47

I am pro-choice myself, but I guess I'm just worried for my sister's well-being no matter what choice she makes. Either way she will be effected. It just makes me sad.

Like I said, I know I complain about her a LOT, but I really do worry for her. She has some problems that haven't been quite yet resolved, some might that never be resolved, just managed... I just want her to be okay.

by **Madrigal** » 19 Apr 2012, 23:26

ETA: My sister decided to terminate the pregnancy. Since she is in her second trimester, the safest route (rather than a D&C or D&E) would be to induce labor and have her give birth. She goes in at 8am Saturday morning and will hopefully give birth by midnight. The genetic counselor and her OB said it could take as many as 2 days and if there are any complications they'll keep her longer than a night.

She and her fiance have chosen a name and everything for her. I had given her an idea for a name awhile ago, but she didn't intend on using it because she already had names picked out. She said she feels like this baby isn't the any of the names she had picked out, so she's using the name idea I had given to her. I am honored even though this baby is being terminated.

That's my sad news for today.

by **Official Spiceworld** » 19 Apr 2012, 23:27

Madrigal wrote:ETA: My sister decided to terminate the pregnancy. Since she is in her second trimester, the safest route (rather than a D&C or D&E) would be to induce labor and have her give birth. She goes in at 8am Saturday morning and will hopefully give birth by midnight. The genetic counselor and her OB said it could take as many as 2 days and if there are any complications they'll keep her longer than a night.

She and her fiance have chosen a name and everything for her. I had given her an idea for a name awhile ago, but she didn't intend on using it because she already had names picked out. She said she feels like this baby isn't the any of the names she had picked out, so she's using the name idea I had given to her. I am honored even though this baby is being terminated.

That's my sad news for today.

I'm sorry to hear about that

by **oldspice** » 19 Apr 2012, 23:37

A very sad situation Stephanie. I wish her strength and time to heal. Whatever decision she was going to make I am glad for her that she has made it early.

I am surprised they are going to have her give birth if she is under 20 weeks, that is quite odd. How traumatic.

by **Charmingspice5** » 19 Apr 2012, 23:42

Really sorry to hear that Stephanie :hug:

by **Madrigal** » 19 Apr 2012, 23:57

oldspice wrote:A very sad situation Stephanie. I wish her strength and time to heal. Whatever decision she was going to make I am glad for her that she has made it early.

I am surprised they are going to have her give birth if she is under 20 weeks, that is quite odd. How traumatic.

Apparently since she had cervical cancer, and surgery to remove the cancer, this is the safest route. Otherwise they'd do one of the other two procedures.

Thank you everyone for your kind words. It means a lot. <3

by **Vitalina** » 20 Apr 2012, 00:17

I am very sorry to hear that. Wishing strength to you and your sister and quick recovery to her

by **FiaSpice** » 20 Apr 2012, 00:57

I'm really sorry, sure it's a hard & sad decision (specially if she gives birth,), but I hope her future pregnancy will be "better" than this one.

by **breezyspice** » 20 Apr 2012, 02:24

Well, the last page easily makes every other bother insignificant.

Hugs to you and your family Steph. I have 9 birds tattooed on my forearm to remind me of lost little ones. I am so sorry for your loss and experience.

by **WhiteLily** » 20 Apr 2012, 12:02

Terribly sorry for your sister, Steph. This whole situation makes me sad. :sad:

by **megzluvsmelc** » 20 Apr 2012, 12:13

Madrigal wrote:ETA: My sister decided to terminate the pregnancy. Since she is in her second trimester, the safest route (rather than a D&C or D&E) would be to induce labor and have her give birth. She goes in at 8am Saturday morning and will hopefully give birth by midnight. The genetic counselor and her OB said it could take as many as 2 days and if there are any complications they'll keep her longer than a night.

She and her fiance have chosen a name and everything for her. I had given her an idea for a name awhile ago, but she didn't intend on using it because she already had names picked out. She said she feels like this baby isn't the any of the names she had picked out, so she's using the name idea I had given to her. I am honored even though this baby is being terminated.

That's my sad news for today.

Awwwwwww Steph I'm really sorry to hear! Very sad news indeed.

by **Madrigal** » 20 Apr 2012, 15:00

Thanks again for the condolences.

My sister (for now) seems surprisingly okay. Though I'm not sure how much she's holding in and letting on a facade. I just hope she will be okay, even if it means her being sad for a little while. Which is only natural. It's a huge loss! I will be there to comfort her and help her get through the days.

by **Lizzy** » 20 Apr 2012, 16:23

jobless, heartbroken and skint. welcome to my life.

by **Lizzy** » 20 Apr 2012, 16:23

Madrigal wrote:Thanks again for the condolences.

My sister (for now) seems surprisingly okay. Though I'm not sure how much she's holding in and letting on a facade. I just hope she will be okay, even if it means her being sad for a little while. Which is only natural. It's a huge loss! I will be there to comfort her and help her get through the days.